THE 5 WORST THINGS WOMEN DO TO THEMSELVES AND THEIR FAMILIES

This list has been comprised from the observation of my own stupid mistakes, as well as the mistakes of many others. Hopefully, together we can put an end to these ridiculous plagues, and make the world a better place.

Lesson #1........We disrespect ourselves! Through stereotypes and tv programming we usually value ourselves less than others. In our minds, it always seems as if someone has it better than we do. Whether it's their looks, their money, their fame, or their family, many of us find ourselves looking over the fence not even knowing what we're looking at. For all we know, that person may have had to sell their soul to get what they've got! When we envy or idolize others we put them above ourselves. This in turn leads to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem leads to settling for less than what we deserve. Settling is how we disrespect ourselves, i.e. our souls. What we must realize is that we are all here for different purposes. We each have our own Destinies to fulfill. Our own lives and Destinies are just as important as the next person's. To break this pattern of self-degradation, ask yourself… “If I’m always looking across the fence, how will my own grass ever get watered? Will my Destiny ever be fulfilled? It took me a while to break this habit, but I finally decided not to sell myself short anymore. I'd done enough of that, which is how I fell for ....... #2....... We have sex with and babies by men who also disrespect us!

I believe that once one begins to settle for less, a cycle of disgrace and degradation begins. Usually this starts in early childhood when we allow a friend or someone we love to constantly embarrass and/or take advantage of us. After enduring this type of abuse for a while, we usually end up with a boyfriend who cheats, a job we hate, and more so-called friends and ass-ociates who just add more drama. Each of them becomes another weight, weighing us down and making it harder to overcome our low self-esteem and insecurity issues. The Soul can only take so much before it begins to lash out at those closest to us. This is where……. #3........We disrespect our men!

Why are there so many women who truly believe there are no good men out there! What would make a woman lay down and have children by a man then one day decide that she no longer needs him? Well, one thing they don't comprehend is that like attracts like. We attract what we are. If a woman is disrespecting herself, she will pull a man who will also disrespect her. If a woman is seeking enlightenment and a more evolved way of life, that is the kind of man she will attract. We all have problems, that's why we need to find the proper mate. In a real relationship we're supposed to help each other through these problems. We're supposed to help each other grow. Although at times it may seem impossible, eventually through diligence, many of us find our true mate, but because we've allowed ourselves to be disrespected and drug through the mud, we no longer trust. We shut off our ability to give and receive love, and for me, because I fell for #2, I found myself taking all my pain out on the man who truly loves me. I was so afraid of being hurt again that I subconsciously kept preparing myself to be hurt again. I kept my mental boxing gloves on and remained hard and unfeminine. For quite some time I would not allow myself to relax and enjoy love. I know that he, he himself had hurt a woman or two in his past and my behavior could have been his karma, but we can't keep living like that. We're supposed to be a blessing to each other, not a curse. Someone has to stand up and make a change. Sistas, why can't it be us? Well, after I finally comprehended that lesson, I then began to realize that: #4........We don't teach our children!

Why is it that once most of us have changed our lives and moved to higher levels of consciousness, we forget to teach our children so they won't fall into the same traps we did. I experienced this when I first noticed that as one of my daughters was filling out. She was seeking the wrong kind of attention and was getting it. Although I had learned the lessons of chastity and modesty, I had somehow failed to teach it to my daughters. I saw my daughter heading down that very uncomfortable yet familiar road I knew it was time to take action. Just recently I met a woman who dressed very modestly yet the whole time she talked about how her 14 yr. old daughter who wore the tightest jeans and was very sexually active! We sat down and had a long discussion. I explained that men (including our sons) disrespect women because we disrespect ourselves. It's not cute to be called a b*tch and it's not cute to walk around like you're selling yourself, then get mad when you're called on it! As women, we must represent Divine Femininity. When we do, the respect will come automatically! Remember, you must be a lady to be treated like a lady.

Chastity + Modesty = R.E.S.P.E.C.T The next lesson is much more complex, and until we have mastered the first four, it will be difficult to comprehend, let alone overcome: #5.......We ignore the necessity of the matriarch!

We've been raised in a monogamous society where the divorce rate and number of fatherless children is out of control. Everyone complains, yet few try to solve the problem. In ancient cultures it was known that a well balanced family structure consisted of a man and at least two women. The three were united, forming the true trinity. In this modern society the drive to obtain spiritual enlightenment has been overshadowed and almost eradicated by the drive for material gain. In this process, much of the natural order has been lost. Now instead of honorable men taking on the responsibility of protecting and providing for their wives and all their children, many men go around making babies and taking the responsibility of none. In a matriarchal society things like this would be very rare, not the norm. In other words, this way of life is not only beneficial to the immediate family, it is beneficial to the entire planet! Children raised in these types of environments have great discipline and grow up to become pillars of society.

My hopes is that, armed with this information we will be able to transform not only our own way of thinking but also our family's, our peers and maybe even our communities. A change in the structure of our society is so badly needed, I hope we can start to make this change now! Peace and Prosperity